The Journey of making Friends

It’s always hard to say goodbye. When you’re travelling you meet a lot of new people and when you’re staying in one city for a couple of months or more you make even better friends. You stay with these couple of friends for those couple of months and you get to know each other really well. Making friends in a completely new country is different than making friends at home, in your home country. When you get to a totally new place and you don’t know anybody, you are on your own until you find the people you can finally call your friends and you start sharing experiences and adventures on your journey – together.

You don’t need a lot of people to share those things with. And these people are not just your friends, these people are the only people you really know in that country. When you get to know people in your home country you already have friends and you know a lot of other people in that country.

Well, to know somebody might have a different meaning, but you know what I mean. You call everybody you just know a little bit your friends, maybe because you’ve done something together a few years ago and you’re not really seeing each other that often, but you’re still texting. Or maybe because you are in the same class in school or Uni and you’re spending your time in school with them. You don’t necessarily need to get to know people and make new friends. But then you are not there any more and all those people you’ve called your friends turn out what they really were for you or it turns out what you were for them.

And I’m not saying that’s a bad thing, you still have the few people you’re staying connected with, your best friends. It might be a bit sad for the first moment you realise you are not seeing the one person you were hanging out with in school, but maybe you just chose different ways. That’s okay. But then, when you really realise you are alone in that new country, you feel like you have to do something and if you don’t? You’re going to be on your own for the whole time you’re in that country. And how boring would it be not to share anything you feel, see, experience with anybody? So you have those people and then after these couple of months they move on and you have to say goodbye. Goodbye to everyone you have come close to.                                                            And that’s the point where you realise that you only had these very important friends and you are on your own again – you get thrown back to the beginning. Where you were at that point you had to find other people you might get along with really well.

Saying goodbye is one of the hardest things to do here on the other side of the world, that’s what I have experienced. But it’s also the end of an amazing time and you start thinking back to all those wonderful things you’ve done, those breathtaking moments you had with your very good friends in this foreign country and you will never forget those things. Another door opens to new adventures with maybe different, but amazing other people and there is no reason to be sad about it, because even if you had to say goodbye for now, you made those friends for a lifetime and what you experienced together will never get lost.

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